I’m sure you’ve had one or two situations in your life that are just hard to move past. My husband Phil and I had one a while ago– your basic betrayal by a supposed friend– that we simply could not get over, even though we knew that would be the healthy and intelligent thing to do. The situation had ended, there was nothing more we could do about it, it was long past time to let it go and yet we found ourselves again and again saying, “if only we had done this” or ” we should have said that” or– my favorite– “we will never talk about this again”.
After our five millionth seven hundredth and sixty seventh time discussing the bleak event and all the shoulda, woulda, coulda moments we missed, we decided it really had taken up as much of our lives as we were willing to give it.
To commemorate the occasion of our letting go, I drew this picture for us. It hangs in our kitchen for the time being, reminding us that we have indeed moved on and can now spend our time planning our future, unencumbered by regret, anger, sadness, or jerks. It also reminds me that I really, really want a coat like this in real life.
Life is short! Be happy! Move on!